"A saw X coming out of a bookstore with Y after getting some books.
A tells B that she/he (I don't want to be called a gender biased guy here) saw X holding hands with Y getting out of the bookstore. (notice how things change when the news is passed on from one to another?)
B tells C that he/she saw or rather A tells him/her that he/she saw X and Y hugging and kissing each other outside the bookstore.(more spices)
Then D who heard only the hugging and kissing part minus the bookstore part and he/she passed the story to E saying that X and Y was saw hugging and kissing while getting into/out of a hotel.
E tells that to X's father(X is obviously a female here) and X's father took a shotgun and killed Y.
Then rumors get spread that Y made X pregnant and so the dad killed the guy and the others assume it must be true as things are being spread so fast."
Notice how things change from one person to another person? That is why at times we need to ascertain the truth of things before we pass them to another person or else it would be damaging. Yes, you may say it doesn't bother you because you are not on the receiving end but think of it, could you face yourself and your own conscience after doing what you have done? There is this email which I got long ago. I think I should share it.
"Socrates' Triple Filter Test
In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem.
One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about your friend?"
"Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."
"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"
"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."
"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"
"No, on the contrary..."
"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"
"No, not really."
"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"
This is why Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem."
This guy reminds me of my old scout days when I took over the troop from the old guys. That's when I made a sacrifice for the better good. The old scouts never talked about the matter anymore nor would they even bring up the topic as I guess it's a dark chapter in their life. Someone asked me if I could just turn back time, would I change the course I have taken. My answer to that is 'NO'. I would not change what I did before as my efforts and sacrifice had bore fruits. Yes in the course I do suffer a lot and the new scouts might not even know me or what I had done for the troop then but it's still worth seeing what I had been fighting for becoming a reality.
I never regretted taking my course of actions and never will. You want to know why? That is because whether I am appreciated for doing what I have done or not, I am still being respected by those who stayed after what happened. Some does understand while there are those who does not. A lot of people does not see it the way I see it but it's okay. Read a post by one of those seniors who stayed back and took over from me as the Troop Leader. http://tenthkl.wordpress.com/2007/01/23/hello-10th-kl/
Back to the guy who asked me for advice. I would say at times the leadership needs to make a decision where they need to sacrifice all that they have but if it is for the better good, I think you should do it. Do things because they are the right thing to do and not because you are forced or pressured to do them. In life you will always have people going against you but what matters is you can face yourself when you do the right thing. That had brought me so far ahead till now and I guess I am not answerable to anyone other than myself. I hope you would make the right choice in handling your problem.