Friday, September 19, 2008

Leadership

Sorry guys, have been tired for the past 2 days rushing in on assignments. Finally what I have feared worst had already happened after I finished writing this post so here I am editing this post again. It came in the form of an email this morning. I guess I would be off for a long time after this and maybe the part 2 post wouldn't even materialize. The email is self explanatory. I would be putting this blog in silence for a week as a sign of respect to my buddy.


(disclaimer - the following has nothing to do with politics)
Say you are a leader somewhere leading a group of people. You once used to be the head and now someone took over but you are still one of the leaders in the group. Then you found out someone (or a few) in your group is doing something against the law against another member in the group you are leading(eg defamatory, death threats, bully, intimidation etc). What would you do? or should I rephrase that as what do you think is the right thing to do?

Would you a) Act as if nothing has happened because they are your friend and you personally do have an amount of unhappiness towards the person on the receiving end? or would you b) Act against the few as you have been entrusted with the power and authority as one of the leaders? This is one of the question which one of my junior scout (who is now leading a group of rover scouts in Johore) ask me but still think this can be referred to in real life context.

I asked him what did he did and he said he went with the first choice because he said he does had an amount of hate against the guy on the receiving end because most of his close friends are against the guy but like it or not he has to live with it because so far he had did nothing wrong (or at least still non provable). My question is "could be those rumors be true or could they be false either?" If the allegations could not be ascertained of it's truth, then I think he is doing a big unjust to the guy on the receiving end.

I personally think if he has been strict to guy on the receiving end, then he should be doing the same against the others (his friends). Yes, that's a responsibility for a leader who is voted in by the group. "Wrong is wrong, no matter who says it. - Malcolm X". I hope he would have the problem resolved. Tell me what you guys think about the matter. Opinions can be different but at least we could evaluate the points together. I also found that rumors and gossips can be more damaging than if they are truth. The following is a situation where things are blown out of proportion because of a group of people spreading the news one from another when they don't know the full truth.

"A saw X coming out of a bookstore with Y after getting some books.

A tells B that she/he (I don't want to be called a gender biased guy here) saw X holding hands with Y getting out of the bookstore. (notice how things change when the news is passed on from one to another?)

B tells C that he/she saw or rather A tells him/her that he/she saw X and Y hugging and kissing each other outside the bookstore.(more spices)

Then D who heard only the hugging and kissing part minus the bookstore part and he/she passed the story to E saying that X and Y was saw hugging and kissing while getting into/out of a hotel.

E tells that to X's father(X is obviously a female here) and X's father took a shotgun and killed Y.

Then rumors get spread that Y made X pregnant and so the dad killed the guy and the others assume it must be true as things are being spread so fast."


Notice how things change from one person to another person? That is why at times we need to ascertain the truth of things before we pass them to another person or else it would be damaging. Yes, you may say it doesn't bother you because you are not on the receiving end but think of it, could you face yourself and your own conscience after doing what you have done? There is this email which I got long ago. I think I should share it.

"Socrates' Triple Filter Test

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem.

One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about your friend?"

"Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

This is why Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem."


This guy reminds me of my old scout days when I took over the troop from the old guys. That's when I made a sacrifice for the better good. The old scouts never talked about the matter anymore nor would they even bring up the topic as I guess it's a dark chapter in their life. Someone asked me if I could just turn back time, would I change the course I have taken. My answer to that is 'NO'. I would not change what I did before as my efforts and sacrifice had bore fruits. Yes in the course I do suffer a lot and the new scouts might not even know me or what I had done for the troop then but it's still worth seeing what I had been fighting for becoming a reality.

I never regretted taking my course of actions and never will. You want to know why? That is because whether I am appreciated for doing what I have done or not, I am still being respected by those who stayed after what happened. Some does understand while there are those who does not. A lot of people does not see it the way I see it but it's okay. Read a post by one of those seniors who stayed back and took over from me as the Troop Leader. http://tenthkl.wordpress.com/2007/01/23/hello-10th-kl/

Back to the guy who asked me for advice. I would say at times the leadership needs to make a decision where they need to sacrifice all that they have but if it is for the better good, I think you should do it. Do things because they are the right thing to do and not because you are forced or pressured to do them. In life you will always have people going against you but what matters is you can face yourself when you do the right thing. That had brought me so far ahead till now and I guess I am not answerable to anyone other than myself. I hope you would make the right choice in handling your problem.

"If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality." - Bishop Desmond Tutu

"When leaders act contrary to conscience, we must act contrary to leaders." - Veterans Fast for Life

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Malaysian Law (edited - last part)

Section 499 of the Penal Code provides for the offending act on defamation. The other is the cyber laws. Some people are just too dumb to leave proof around to get screwed.Maybe you guys should read it before posting things which aren't true about someone. This goes particularly when you actually name that person by name or nickname. Things on the internet can't be removed that easily mind you because some would stood there for years and they might be back to haunt you. Cross the line then be prepared to face the consequences. Some people just like to play it big and they stand to lose out big under this act.

Under Communications and Multimedia Act 1998, I think paying 1k in fine for everyday could be a small amount for someone(that's if you have the money to dump into the dustbin). I got this from a lawyer friend. I also found out that US laws(which most blog sites are from) are tough on all these too and under their law, they are complied to give a copy of the original post(if deleted or modified in any way) I leave you to your thought. Good night




Defamation Act 1957

Section 499. Defamation
Whoever, by words either spoken or intended to be read or by signs, or by visible representations makes or publishes any imputation concerning any person, intending to harm, or knowing or having reason to believe that such imputation will harm the reputation of such person, is said, except in the cases hereinafter excepted, to defame that person.

Section 500. Punishment for defamation
Whoever defames another shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to two years, or with fine, or with both.



Section 211 and Section 233 of the Communications and Multimedia Act 1998 provides for the prohibition of offensive content and improper use of network facilities and network services.

Communications and Multimedia Act 1998 (Act 588)
Section 211. Prohibition on provision of offensive content
No content applications service provider, or other person using a content applications service, shall provide content which is indecent, obscene, false, menacing, or offensive in character with intent to annoy, abuse, threaten or harass any person.
A person who contravenes subsection (1) commits an offence and shall, on conviction, be liable to a fine not exceeding fifty thousand ringgit or to imprisonment for a term not exceeding one year or to both and shall also be liable to a further fine of one thousand ringgit for every day or part of a day during which the offence is continued after conviction.


Section 233. Improper use of network facilities or network service, etc.
A person who by means of any network facilities or network service or applicationsservice knowingly
- makes, creates or solicits; and
- initiates the transmission of, any comment, request, suggestion or other communication which is obscene, indecent, false, menacing or offensive in character with intent to annoy, abuse, threaten or harass another person;
or initiates a communication using any applications service, whether continuously, repeatedly or otherwise, during which communication may or may not ensue, or withwithout disclosing his identity and with intent to annoy, abuse, threaten or harass any person at any number or electronic address, commits an offence.


Link of article and law here.


*edited part (additional stuffs)*
I just found out something new. Blogs are considered as written proofs too and when things are put on blogs, even when they are not yours (eg posting conversations), you are still liable if those things in the post is defamatory (you have to prove it's right in court and failure to do so would make you guilty). This is because the person posted it and the last I checked posting something about people's sexual preference which is untrue is also considered defamatory. Ever wondered why people post things which are not theirs and worse still is the person they get the information from are not those directly involved and doesn't know much about what actually happened?

It would also be fun to get a friend's(Ezra Wong) mum(Mrs. Wong), who is the senior assistant of the said school(PESS) to testify in court that what is being said are lies. Things are indeed getting interesting. Some would never know what happened at the office and give their own version of things. Anyway I wish your friend and the one who loves to get "good" stories about me good luck. A police report was made (that I do not deny and it's not one but two actually but against who and what happened in the process of investigation?). Why is it I am still here and not convicted if I did indeed make threats? For goodness sake, get your facts clear before you try to throw your own poo at others.

"Weird Bulletins"? Maybe they are weird because as far as I can remember, I don't think I posted much bulletins except a few which I am 100% sure had nothing to do with anyone. Actually the police reports coincides with both my exam dates. Wanna put a bet on who is cooking up stories now? Posters? What a laugh. What posters can I post? Luckily there are people who did investigate to the end and not like some who just start the mud slinging thinking she know it all. You know there is this Chinese proverb which says "Jou meh dou hou, lau fan yat di yue bei bei ji gei"(in whatever you do, always leave some means of escape for your own). It means that in life you need not always go all out as at time when you lose it, you would lose it all. I hope you would really see things clearly.

Right now I don't have the time to deal with you. You can continue to dig your own grave hole there and when I have the time and I feel like it, I would make sure you get back what you deserve. I don't make empty promises and when I say this out, I mean it. It would be fun to see lawyers grilling your friend as she isn't even sure of things when she said them out. My advice? When you want to dig up poo, make sure you are ready to get yourself covered in them too because that is what you are going to get if you fail. Happy now? I am just waiting for you to cook up more stories about me so when you fall, you would surely fall hard.

Thanks Dr Liew for the information. I guess it would come in handy if I decide to leave the case to you.

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

The journey home(Part 1)

I know this post would be long so I will just separate it into 2 parts. The other reason being I should be doing my work instead of posting this up and bloody blogspot doesn't allow me to post anything for the past 12 hours else this would be posted yesterday night. One of the foreign students ask me how to go down to Midvalley by bus and how long would the journey take. The first question that I asked him back(don't know why but this is my reflex answer) is "You mean the actual time you are in the bus or the total of waiting time and the journey there?". He stared blankly at my eyes and ask me if it makes such a huge difference. I don't blame him because he doesn't travel much in Malaysia.

He hasn't tried waiting for the bus for over 2 hours when buses just speed by without taking passengers. Some just off the display before they even reach the station so that they need not bring passengers. These are one of those days which I wished I would just drive again but I guess I still have to let go of the past. Yeah, maybe some would say this is an excuse but you are not me, so don't judge me. With the price of petrol rising like mad added to the inflation we are in, I guess I will just take the bus home instead. One side of my brain tells me I should stop taking Rapid and take Metro bus instead.

Why? Because Rapid charge RM2 for all day long trips and the buses are more frequent but the waiting time is so long (as in buses just speeding by the bus stations) vs Metro which charges as each trip. Minimum I make 3 trips on a bus a day to get home. So if I use Metro I would have wasted RM 1 for nothing and the waiting time depends on situation. At times, I would take metro even if it costs me more. Imagine wasting 3 hours which can be put into good use doing my work.

Taking KTM would cost me even more and so many people are complaining of late train services so it is out of the equation. At times I just feel like holding a brick and throwing it at those buses which doesn't stop. Then they would surely stop but for a different purpose. Prior to the elections and by-election, you see ministers and even the prime minister taking public transport. Everyone know why they are there. I wonder if they are going to do that long term. Say all ministers can only take public transport for official duty be it to go to the parliament of what? No I am not saying I am touching on politics which is a taboo at this moment but they would know the problem faced by us and make changes. But all these are only hopes and wishes. With the rising price of things and petrol, so many people are now resorting to public transports.

With the already packed buses adding to more people who doesn't drive anymore, I think it's high time someone do something. Get plaincloth LPKP officers to nab those bus drivers who doesn't stop at bus stops and also those who off their displays. Yes, there may be genuine display faults but what happened to the good old card board with the number? I seriously think if the mp's are taking public transport, they would be late 24/7. Compare to the public transport of Singapore, I think we have lot's to improve on.

Anyway, that friend of mine took the metro bus which came before the Rapid bus I took. The wait for a bus is always filled with frustrations, anxiety and stress. Not to mention the additional tiredness after the trips but guess these things will never change for a long long time from now. At least not for the recent months to come.

A note to the b*tch who bitches about anything(be it true or not), I would appreciate if you'd learn how to keep your mouth shut when you aren't sure about the truth here. If you don't know what happened, then it's better for you to keep your mouth shut. I can tell you I am just very close to referring you to the direct management and get you the treatment you deserved but I still think about what could happen to you and how things could affect you in the future. Someone crossed the line before and I did something that they might not like it but less did they know I have toned down what I intended to do as I know what the consequences of my actions would bring to them. A few adviced me to go for the fullest I can get but is it worth it? I have everything at hand and I just have to hand things to the right person and everything those people have been working for will be gone just in a snap. But at what cost this self satisfaction comes?

You know in life there are just some people who doesn't know which line not to cross and some just openly admit they are spreading nonsense. It's just plain stupid when you did something wrong and openly admit it not because you wanted to repent but as a challenge to those who are in the other side who can make your life miserable. The Red Cross archive is always there if you wanted to refer to something and to accertain the truth but I guess a numbskull like you would never have the brain to do that and instead prefer going on cooking out stupid stories making a joke out of other people's miseries which will eventually make yourself the largest joke when the table is turned on you. I am giving you the warning here that if you cross the line of tolerance, you will see yourself getting the treatment you deserve. As they say, you reap what you sow.

One more thing I guess I should let you know. If I do rebut you, I make sure you would feel it where it hurts most. Just because you are a lady, I am not going to be that hard to you but you should know when a person is pushed to the edge of the cliff would just fight back and things wouldn't go pretty that way. So if you don't know where Kel is, then just shut the F*ck up. Seriously, I shouldn't have even wasted time here on you and let you put yourself into that misery you are in. As they say "let you dig your own grave" and when you are done, I would just cover you with the sand. I need not prove anything to you, just like I do the same to anyone I had known.

In life there will always those who would believe a b*tch making a statement but when things goes out of hand, even crocodile tears will no longer save the b*tch from getting drowned by her own silly mistakes. This is one good thing that god made as he is always fair. People can be deceived by beauty and so called innocent faces but at the end the truth always stands out no matter how long it takes. Laugh all you can now and continue making all those stupid jokes because they might just come back and haunt you when life have it's way. I just hope that those you have made fun of would just come back and give you the treatment you deserved. Like Kel said before he had gone missing, stop wasting time on someone who "mou yeok hor gau(no medicine can save)". Maybe he is right that I should just let you make your own life more miserable.


9th Day since he has last contacted any of us. Sigh. He should know better that this kind of things are not meant for jokes while some non considerate b*tch would have thought otherwise.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Why are people afraid of love and commitment?

Someone asked me this question today. Seriously I am quite blur as I have not slept the previous night when you asked me this question so I guess I owe you an answer here. Some are afraid to love because they are afraid of getting hurt. Some better person are afraid of loving someone and be loved in return because they are afraid of getting hurt and also afraid of hurting the other person. It happens often in life.

You may ask why two people who are loving each other can't be together. That is because one side is not brave enough to take the risk. There are just too much unknown across the line between friendship and love(relationship). Some crossed the line and found that their life is full of colors while some just traded their freedom for hell (hell hath no fury like a woman scorned lol). Anyway, you need to access the situation and see if you are ready to bring things over the line.

Once you are sure, you just need to talk your partner into it. Don't come blame me when something goes wrong if you manage to "cheat" your partner into it and something goes wrong. All I can tell you is never give up so easily but at the same time, know when to let go of things. It's a balance here actually. It takes more than guts to get something done. Wish you all the best in life my friend.

If you love someone strong enough, you would cross the line and make things happen. Don't wait for things to happen but instead make it happen. Take the first step and maybe things would go better then you have expected. I did that with my darling and things turned out good.


* 8th day since I last heard from Kel & 3 days since the arrests.

Sunday, September 14, 2008

To Kel (Read this ASAP)

Hey, I know how you are feeling now. I have been in the same situation once. I know it's hard to see people you tried to help dying. It's even harder when you blame it on yourself when you can't help but just to stare and watch them die. I don't know if it's a mistake on your part or not but whatever it is, don't be hard or yourself. All your team mates are worried about you when you go missing like that. Please go back to the HQ and let them know you are alright ok?

If you need someone to talk to, I am always here for you. Trust me when I say I know how you feel because I have lost peoples who holds dear to me. I should be the one feeling sorry because I put you in this situation. Anyway, get in contact with one of the members in the mission. No one else can help you unless you are willing to take the first step to talk about it. I would suggest you speak up on how you feel during the sharing session everyday. It helps you ease up on things. The first thing you need to do is to get back to me or your team mates. We want to know you are ok and we do really care ok?

Every member is a brother or sister to us. It hurts to see you missing. Think of all those who needs you and those people who needs your help. Let's not let those sad things take over your mind but keep thinking positive thoughts. Think about how many people you have helped. Think of those smiling faces when they are in such dire states. You take care there ok buddy? Get the sat phone and give me a call once you read this. I left a message in your blog too. I will be waiting for your call ok?

Happy Mid Autumn(Mooncake) Festival everyone






HAPPY MID AUTUMN/MOONCAKE FESTIVAL EVERYONE



(though I am lighting a candle for a different purpose here in Malaysia if you know what I mean and another for a friend who is currently missing after going out on duty)

Saturday, September 13, 2008

1st post (The other post is not counted as it's a disclaimer)

Finally I have started on this blog which has been left idle here for over several years. Some might noticed that I deleted everything from the missions I have went on and others. That is a part that I would leave behind due to the painful experiences. The multiply blog had been converted to my private blog. Anyway there ain't much to see there actually. Just some old pictures and I am planning to take it down in due time.

I am still busy with my stuffs, so expect less posts than before till I have cleared things up.

To those Red Cross members who are currently on missions around the world, "May your god(s) keep you guys safe in whatever you do and wherever you guys may be".

And to the one lady who hated me so much so that you describe the hate as a hate to the core, I would suggest you speak to people who are my true friends to know me more. I wouldn't explain anything to you because it wouldn't change your perception after all. Just a word of advice, at times observing things and understanding them would be better for the mind. Seeing things as they are isn't going to bring you anywhere unless you understand the circumstances which things are done.

I would also need to apologize to some of my friends whom I have neglected over the past half year. I didn't do that on purpose. I may have offended you guys in one way or another as I haven't been myself due to the stress I am under going then. I prefer not to tell anyone except a few who really knew me well enough to have the privilege of knowing it. You guys may feel that I am bad and doesn't treat you guys as friends for leaving you guy clueless but also know I am one who wished to stay strong to handle things on my own. Yes, you guys might argue that I could have handled the stress easier if I would just tell you guys but for me, it would just mean that I delegate the stress to you guys or worse still add stress to your already stressed life. This happens when you don't know how to console me of things that had happened. I have been through worse times and all I need is time then.

Unfortunately I have to remain strong despite all the uncertainties (or certainties as I have already foresee what is going to happen after all). This is because there are those who relied on me as their strength throughout the time. Unfortunately, I brought the same stress down to the exam halls. Some would have noticed I am extremely tired in between classes that I try to get some rest whenever I can. Some would already know how I would be like when I don't have enough sleep. If I didn't reply to your hi(s) doesn't mean I am really ignoring you. It's just that there are thousands of things going in my mind at those moments and I am not even aware of my surroundings.

Thanks for those who tried to get me (or ease me) out of the situation and I really appreciated that. To those I have offended in one way or another, it's understandable if you guys need time to heal or even if those wounds doesn't heal, I would be understanding. I have no one to blame but myself. That's all. I need to continue with my work else I would need to burn the midnight oil.

Introduction (The 10 commandments or rules like someone suggested)

1. If you are unhappy with what I write here, do leave a comment. If I find your comment worth my time and effort to rebut(Eng not Mal), I will approve it and reply accordingly. Else you always have a choice not to be here at all. No one is pointing the gun at your head to be here.

2. If you are here to spam, be warned that I have users activity log and I would have your IP address, Name, Address your line is registered to and even your country. You can guess what I am going to do with that information. Legit comments would be entertained and your privacy respected. If anyone crosses my line of tolerance, you would definitely pay duly.

3. Do not judge me if you don't know me and for those who ask me not to judge you because you feel I don't know you enough, I would expect the same from you.

4. I don't like explaining things even when things are against me no matter how innocent I am unless I am forced to do that. I am comfortable with who I am and I can sleep knowing what I have done and what I haven't.

5. If you find things I say hard to believe, that is your personal opinion which is one of the reasons why I don't bother to tell others things about me or even explain.

6. My principle is if you believe me, you would so there is no need for more convincing if you don't because no matter what I say, you would not believe me either. So why waste my energy?

7. King James Bible - Matthew 5:37 (It's self explanatory)
But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.

8. Just because someone share the same name as me doesn't mean we are the same people. There are thousands of kelvin's out there and that's why I coined my name as Kellaw which is a combination of Kelvin Law. So don't ask me how Kellaw came about.

9. Don't ask me for photos of the missions I have been in before as all of them are private and which some are painful experiences which I don't wish to share. Anyway, why do you need them if you are there all the time and it's all on the shared drive (if I haven't deleted them before I left)? We aren't supposed to even take pictures outside, remember?

10. If you have any questions, ask. If I am comfortable with it, I would answer you. As much as I value friendships, I also value enemies. Anyway enemies make you a better person from all the competition but this differs in view of the persons reading. I believe as long as you are ok with others doing the same to you, then what you do "should" be ok.
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